Annoying behaviors.
Have you ever felt that your child behaves in an annoying way on purpose? I’m sure you have. We’ve all been there, and yes, children do behave in annoying ways on purpose but wait, it’s not exactly what you think it is.
Most annoying behaviors have two purposes:
- the request for connection
- and the seize of control
which, believe it or not, are positive at their foundation.
How can annoying behaviors be positive? Because what annoying behaviors are mostly telling us is "I need to connect with you in a deeper level. I feel vulnerable because my connection with you is somehow shallow at this moment (normal survival thought). Please relate to me" and "I feel I don't have enough control over my life and that freaks me out (normal survival thought). Please allow me some control." Yes, annoying behaviors are based on a survival need and you can help your kid feel better and behave better by connecting with them in a deeper way and allowing them control over their environment that suits their age and capabilities.
Behavior and annoying behaviors are a big subject and each family is different. Feel free to reach out to me if you'd like to learn strategies tailored for your specific needs.
